Current mood: contemplative
Category: Life
I have a HARD TIME letting go. I mean a really hard time. When my relationship ended with my boyfriend, I struggled (and continue to struggle) with the realization that we were no longer together. That has weighed more heavily on my mind than the fact that I’m unemployed. In conjunction with my unemployment, it has been a tough time emotionally. After a rather painful conversation post-break up, I decided to work very hard on letting it go.
Yesterday while reading the same little newspaper, I ran across an article entitled “Letting It Go – Letting It Be” by Ruth Hanna, M. ED, LPC. Here is a what she says about letting it go vs letting it be:
“Here’s the difference, in my estimation: Letting go implies getting rid of something, and we may not be ready to do that. It may feel like a loss, or that something unknown will occur that we’re not all sure we’ll welcome. Who will we be without this familiar problem, even if it does bedevil us?
But letting something be says this: I can place this burden down beside me for a while, and let myself breathe more easily without it pressing on me so closely. Ah, that’s better – I feel lighter and more at ease already. Maybe I’ll pick it up again, but my grip won’t be so tight. I’m grateful to see here that I really can let it be, and let myself be, too.”
When I read this yesterday (in a public place mind you), I cried and had to go to the restroom to blow my nose (ewww!). That ended up being a nice little gem of information in a time of need. I think letting it be is a gentler approach and I will do just that. It feels good to walk around not feeling like GI Joe with the Kung-Fu grip.
If my little gems are of interest, I would like to share the website for the paper. It is Spirit Seeker.
I hope that you too are able to find something relevant for you as well.
© Spirit Seeker, January 2007, Volume 11, Number 1