{"id":48,"date":"2013-09-04T04:47:30","date_gmt":"2013-09-04T09:47:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.petitefreespirit.com\/2013\/09\/facing-fear-literally\/"},"modified":"2020-06-10T19:47:04","modified_gmt":"2020-06-11T00:47:04","slug":"facing-fear-literally","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.petitefreespirit.com\/index.php\/2013\/09\/04\/facing-fear-literally\/","title":{"rendered":"Facing Fear &#8211; Literally"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><P align=justify><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 14px\" face=arial><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT>In <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.petitefreespirit.com\/2013\/06\/29\/snakes-snakes-snakes.aspx\">Snakes, Snakes, Snakes<\/a>, I wrote about being frightened by a snake on my path while bicycling months ago and seeing a few dead snakes as well.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>I don\u2019t feel alone in my aversion to snakes because it is a rather common phobia\/fear\/aversion.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>It used to be that I would jump out of my skin if I simply saw a snake on TV (worse would be a larger-than-life, big-screen snake while at the movies).<font>&nbsp; <\/font><\/p>\n<p><P align=justify><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 14px\" face=arial><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT>A few years ago, I had an exceptionally vivid dream that involved snakes.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Instead of being in fear of them in my dream, I was at peace with them and there was an element of camaraderie between the snakes and I.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>The dream was so powerful and significant feeling that I wondered if I had lost my fear of snakes.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>I never tested the theory because I seldom watch TV and had not really seen any movies with snakes in them.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>I still lived in Saint Louis at the time, so I was far enough removed from \u201cthe wild\u201d as to not have much of an opportunity to run across a snake in my daily life (although I had seen possums, bats and a coyote there).<font>&nbsp; <\/font>After a time, I kind of forgot about the nature of the dream and my curiosity regarding my fear potentially having dissipated.<\/p>\n<p><P align=justify><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 14px\" face=arial><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT>This past week, I was filling time and meandered into a pet store which, among many other things, sold snakes.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>There was a baby ball python in his tank and I decided to face my fear of snakes in a limited way.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>I stood in front of the tank for probably 10 minutes just looking at the snake as it undulated around the tank going from being exposed on a faux tree limb to hiding in a faux tree trunk towards the back of the tank.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>After a while, it came out of its hiding place and moved towards the glass of the tank to check out what was going on.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>All the while, I stood there observing the snake with no fear.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Even when the snake was near the glass and looking out towards me, I continued to observe the snake.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>No fear.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>As a matter of fact, I looked so long and so hard that I could appreciate some aspect of beauty the snake possessed.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>In return for the snake\u2019s part in my experiment, I sent the snake Reiki to help it feel calm and peace in what I perceived to have been a chaotic environment.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>At one point, someone tapped on the glass of the tank which I found to be downright annoying.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>In reading, ball pythons are pretty docile but also extremely nervous.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Tapping on the glass seemed like an upsetting event for an animal that is easily nervous.<\/p>\n<p><P align=justify><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 14px\" face=arial><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT>Standing in front of the tank, observing the snake forever was one step forward in facing just one of my fears.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>In an earlier conversation with someone I actually attempt to heed when she speaks, she mentioned the unnecessary weight of fear that I carry regarding New Orleans.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>In <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.petitefreespirit.com\/2013\/01\/27\/calamitous-orleans.aspx\">Cajun Chaos<\/a>, I recounted my early run-in with New Orleans which led to my vowing to not come NEAR New Orleans &#8211; EVER.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>It is an amazing testament to the concept of \u201cnever say never\u201d that I live so close right now.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Just as I was able to move beyond my fear and find some semblance of beauty in the python, the next task is to move beyond the fear of being a victim of violent crime in order to find the beauty in New Orleans. <font>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/font>That can only be done when I stop cowering and turn to face New Orleans.<\/p>\n<p><P align=justify><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 14px\" face=arial><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT><FONT style=\"FONT-SIZE: 85%\"><\/FONT>I\u2019ve posted the video below because the story the video tells is about fear.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Notice how, initially, the sound of the one guy walking behind the main character creates the tension.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Yet, as the main character continues walking, his fear increases as the one guy becomes two, then, three.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>As his fear increases, the three increase to legions.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>The harder the main character runs away from the legions of menacing people chasing him, the more people there are chasing him.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Finally, he stops and turns around.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>And they stop.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>As he faces the initial two who followed him, they both smile as if to acknowledge that he has just figured out their secret.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>It is at that point that he takes his first step towards the menacing legions.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>And they recede away from him.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>He takes another step forward and they recede.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>With each step forward he takes, they, as a group, recede until he is running towards them and they are now running FROM him.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>And that is the nature of fear; it dogs your every footstep or footfall as long as it is behind you.<font>&nbsp; <\/font>Yet, once you turn to face the fears and walk towards them, they disappear.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 85%;\"><\/font><font style=\"font-size: 14px;\"><\/p>\n<p style=\"\" align=\"justify\">\n<p><\/font><\/font><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube-nocookie.com\/embed\/hbe3CQamF8k?rel=0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"315\" width=\"560\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In Snakes, Snakes, Snakes, I wrote about being frightened by a snake on my path while bicycling months ago and seeing a few dead snakes as well.&nbsp; I don\u2019t feel alone in my aversion to snakes because it is a rather common phobia\/fear\/aversion.&nbsp; It used to be that I would jump out of my skin &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.petitefreespirit.com\/index.php\/2013\/09\/04\/facing-fear-literally\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Facing Fear &#8211; Literally<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[3,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-48","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-music","category-spiritual"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":false,"thumbnail":false,"medium":false,"medium_large":false,"large":false,"1536x1536":false,"2048x2048":false,"post-thumbnail":false},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"pfspirit","author_link":"https:\/\/www.petitefreespirit.com\/index.php\/author\/pfspirit\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"In Snakes, Snakes, Snakes, I wrote about being frightened by a snake on my path while bicycling months ago and seeing a few dead snakes as well.&nbsp; 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